When God’s Mysterious Ways Turns to Abuse & “Winning”- @shayallday
“To think I have so much power over you is awesome.” — @Shayallday
One of our favorite content creators was in a catastrophic accident yesterday…
He publicly speaks out against God, religion and prayer making sense after spending 40 years in religion. Out of 149 comments (as of the writing of this) there thankfully was only one person who decided to make a comment that I feel is important expose religious psychosis. And I wish it wasn’t as bad as it gets.
This was Spencer’s original post:
This is what @shayallday decided to post:
be sure to continue reading as she goes on to personally attack Dogweh & Reckless the creator who engages with her comment.
Romans 12:15 does not instruct Christians to explain another person’s suffering, assign God’s intentions to it, or use it to validate their beliefs; it says to “weep with them that weep.”
Christians who believe the Bible also believe the story of the Good Samaritan and the Prodigal Son, both of which highlight compassion, restoration, and how another human being is to be treated. Christians who believe the Bible accept commandments from their God to love their enemies, and they are given a definition of love that says it is patient and kind, does not envy, and does not boast.
This article is not being written within the confines of Christianity. However, when someone uses their God and religious beliefs to justify the degradation or abuse of another human being, what needs to be exposed as Religious Psychosis.
For someone to respond to catastrophic human suffering with “God works in mysterious ways” is not a neutral statement. In this context, it places God's agency into the catastrophe: God had a hand in this. God allowed or caused this for a reason. God is doing something here. Or even worst. It’s because of something Spencer did that God is working in mysterious ways that would lead to him having a catatrophic event.
A real event involving injury, fear, grief, disability, or death gets absorbed into an unverifiable religious narrative and assigned supernatural intention without evidence that God had anything to do with it. The suffering then becomes a “lesson,” “warning,” “test,” “punishment,” or “plan” depending entirely upon what the believer already believes, while the person actually suffering does not get met with attention, kindness or love.
The very tenants of what Christians define as what it means to be Christian.
Please be with this offense: Spencer experienced a catastrophic accident. And instead of 100% of humanity coming together and sharing our love.. we have @shayallday saying “God works in mysterious ways” and his catestrophic accident becomes usable material for reinforcing someone else's theology.
This is the Psychosis of Jesus.
And with what Jesus went through to expose religious abuse it only feels right to expose this contradiction. Paul himself warns that without love, religious expression becomes nothing more than a “sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal” (1 Corinthians 13:1).
If no evidence can distinguish “God did this” from an accident, illness, or tragedy occurring without divine intervention, then “God works in mysterious ways” has explained nothing and completely overstepped the very humanity her own Jesus commanded her to protect.
In the Good Samaritan, the response to the injured person is mercy and care, and Jesus ends the story by instructing his listener to do likewise. Jesus goes even further in Matthew 25:40: “whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”
So within the Christianity this woman is representing, looking at another human being’s catastrophic suffering and using it to imply “God did this to you” is not merely an offense against the suffering person. By the standard attributed to Jesus himself, how you treat the suffering person is how you are treating Jesus.
Again, this is The Psychosis of Jesus. And it gets substantially worst.
Dogweh & Reckless asks a question which @shayallday responds with..
Again this would be one thing if it ended here. And oh how we wish @shayallday would have just ended there.
Dogweh & Reckless’s created a video response to @shayallday’s original comment and @shayallday went over to Dogweh & Reckless’s account and commented:
@shayallday invokes the creator at Dogweh & Reckless sex/gender.
@shayallday calls the creator at Dogweh & Reckless mentally unstable.
But wait.. there is more…
This is The Psychosis of Jesus.
This is why Spencer, Dogweh & Reckless, and us here at All of Us are doing what we are doing to expose this. This is abuse and it is happening to millions of people online in the name of Jesus.
@shayallday speculates about the creator at Dogweh & Reckless loneliness and emotional state.
@shayallday weaponized antidepressant medication.
@shayallday says creator at Dogweh & Reckless as having a “fragile ego.”
But wait there is more..
@shayallday thenexplicitly celebrated what she believed she had accomplished:
“To think I have so much power over you is awesome.”
@shayallday then claimed her words:
“literally controlled your time, emotions and energy”
then @shayallday declares.
“I WIN”
This is not an article about whether @shayallday won or not. I believe 8.3 billion people agree she did not win anything. Yet here she is with her Christian God fueling her toddler sized tantrum while using big words. This is abuse. This should be illegal. To the day this is an actual crime. And there is nothing we can do other than expose it.
So that’s why we exist. This is why we do what we do. That maybe one day people will learn to never do this to another human being. And if human nature truly can’t figure out how to not harm their fellow human that we can at least make actions like this illegal. And hopefully today anyone who knows @shayallday will learn who she truly is to the least of these on the internet.
What happens when another human beings suffering becomes an acceptable target for religious abuse?
And what happens when someone stands up against this abuse?
@shayallday happens.
And she is excited because she “wins”.
How can causing another person emotional distress no longer be recognized as a reason to stop, and instead becomes evidence that one has won?
WHY THIS MATTERS
I use the phrase Religious Psychosis to describe a pattern in which religious interpretation becomes insulated from ordinary reality-testing and begins governing how other human beings are perceived and treated.
I am not diagnosing @shayallday with clinical psychosis.
I don't need to.
Her documented words are enough to examine her behavior.
The concern here is not that she believes in God.
The concern is what happened to another human being once someone stands up against religious abuse.
You’d think Christians, of all people, would understand that harming another human being while believing yourself righteous was never the point.
Their entire religion centers on what happened when human beings believed they were justified in condemning, humiliating, and harming Jesus.
7 Offenses That Must Be Exposed So They Are Never Repeated in the Name of Jesus, God, or Any Religion
1. OFFENSE: Putting Theology Before the Suffering Human
When someone is suffering, meet the human being, not the theology. Their catastrophe is not the time for your explanation of God, your interpretation of God's plan, your warning, your lesson, your testimony, or your need to make their suffering fit your beliefs. “Weep with them that weep” means exactly that.
The Good Samaritan saw a wounded human being and responded with care. He did not stand over him and say “God works in mysterious ways”.
Repentance Could Look Like... When another human being is hurting, stop preaching long enough to care. If your theology prevents you from meeting suffering with compassion, you are violating the very teachings of Jesus you claim to represent.
2. OFFENSE: Weaponizing Someone’s Sex or Gender
@shayallday wrote: “Sir.. you are confused about your sex, you are mentally unstable...”
Sex or gender has absolutely nothing to do with the majority of all conversations that have to do with catastrophic accidents.
Bringing it into the exchange is simply identifying something personal and using it as ammunition against the person asking the question.
In addition to making it about gender, misgendering someone intentionally compounds the offense. It takes another person’s identity, refuses to recognize it as they have expressed it, and turns that refusal into a means of ridicule and degradation.
Disagreement does not require stripping another human being of basic respect.
And for someone claiming Christianity, the contradiction is direct. Jesus did not command his followers to find the most vulnerable place in an enemy and attack it. He said:
“Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you.” — Matthew 5:44
Repentance Could Look Like...Refusing to use any details about another person’s identity because you disagree with them. If ones response to an “enemy” is to search for something personal that might hurt them, this the opposite of the love Jesus called his believers to do.
3. “YOU ARE MENTALLY UNSTABLE”
Mental illness is never a rebuttal.
Even if someone has been diagnosed with a psychiatric condition, that is never a worthy vulnerability to point out, expose, or weaponize against them.
In addition to this, we can clearly see Dogweh & Reckless was standing up for our dear friend and pointing directly to the original comment @shayallday made, “God works in mysterious ways,” in response to our friend having suffered a catastrophic accident.
If we objectively look at the words shared by Dogweh & Reckless, we can see they were driven by both passion and compassion. When we objectively look at @shayallday’s words, we can also see passion, yet what is painfully absent is compassion.
And if “mentally unstable” is being used to describe someone experiencing significant emotional dysregulation, distress, or difficulty responding appropriately to a situation, which behavior in this exchange should actually concern us?
The person passionately defending a catastrophically injured friend, or the person who responds by misgendering someone, attacking their mental health, weaponizing psychiatric medication, insulting their relationship with their dog, and eventually celebrating the belief that she has gained psychological power over them?
I am not saying @shayallday has a mental illness, because that would reproduce the exact offense being exposed here. I am asking all of us to notice the extraordinary contradiction: the person declaring someone else “mentally unstable” is simultaneously engaging in behavior that is hostile, degrading, and profoundly lacking in compassion.
And even if Dogweh & Reckless were experiencing significant psychological distress, what then? Would that make humiliation more appropriate? Would it make deliberately pressing on their vulnerabilities more acceptable? No. It would make compassion even more necessary.
If her statement were genuinely rooted in concern for Dogweh & Reckless’s psychological stability, deliberately contributing additional distress would be an indefensible response to it. A person believed to be struggling mentally is not an easier target. They are a human being requiring greater care.
Repentance Could Look Like... Never identify another person’s perceived psychological vulnerability and then use it as a place to hurt them.
If you genuinely believe someone is mentally struggling, compassion should increase, not disappear. And before labeling another human being “mentally unstable,” examine whether your own conduct toward them demonstrates the patience, kindness, self-control, and love you claim your faith produces.
4. “GO TAKE YOUR ANTI-DEPRESSION MEDS”
@shayallday wrote: “go take your anti depression meds.. poor dog needs therapy after you..”
Psychiatric medication is healthcare. Using someone’s medication as an insult turns their attempt to care for their mental health into a vulnerability to shame them with. And that harm reaches beyond Dogweh & Reckless. Every person reading who takes antidepressants is being shown that their treatment can become ammunition the moment someone wants to degrade them.
We would immediately recognize the cruelty in “go take your seizure medication” or “go take your heart pills.” Mental-health treatment deserves no less dignity.
And there is an especially disturbing contradiction here: after calling someone “mentally unstable,” mocking them for potentially taking medication would mean ridiculing them for receiving treatment for the very struggle you just accused them of having.
Repentance Could Look Like...Never weaponize healthcare choices.
If someone takes medication to support their health, respect their willingness to care for themselves. And if you genuinely believe someone is struggling, their treatment should be something you respect, never something to use to hurt them.
5. “EVEN YOUR DOG THINKS YOU NEED HELP”
@shayallday wrote: “Even your dog thinks you need help.”
And: “poor dog needs therapy after you”
For many people, an animal is family, companionship, safety, and a source of comfort during some of the hardest periods of their life. Taking that relationship and turning it into another way to hurt someone is not harmless humor. It reaches for something the person loves and attempts to make even that relationship evidence that something is wrong with them.
And this is where the cumulative harm matters. Dogweh & Reckless’s identity, mental health, medication, emotional state, and now their relationship with their dog have all become available targets. When nearly every personal detail you can find becomes another place to inflict humiliation, this is no longer about disagreement. It is a pattern of interpersonal degradation.
Repentance Could Look Like...Leave the things another human being loves out of your attempts to hurt them.
One’s family, animals, relationships, healthcare, identity, and vulnerabilities are not ammunition. If your goal is to love your enemy, deliberately searching for increasingly personal places to cause pain moves in exactly the opposite direction.
6. “TO THINK I HAVE SO MUCH POWER OVER YOU IS AWESOME”
@shayallday wrote: “To think I have so much power over you is awesome.”
@shayallday then claimed: “my words... literally controlled your time, emotions and energy...”
This may be the most disturbing moment in the entire exchange because the perceived harm itself becomes the reward. @shayallday believed her words had affected Dogweh & Reckless emotionally, consumed their time and energy, and given her power over them. Her response to believing she had accomplished that was:
“awesome.”
If you believe your words are causing another human being distress, compassion tells you to become more careful. Concern tells you to de-escalate. Love tells you that another person's suffering is never a victory. Celebrating perceived psychological power over another human being turns their distress into a trophy.
And within the Christianity being represented here, the contradiction could hardly be clearer: love “does not delight in evil” and “is not self-seeking” (1 Corinthians 13:5–6). Another person's pain is not supposed to become evidence of your power.
Repentance could look like… If you realize your words are hurting someone, stop trying to win and start caring about the human being you are affecting.
Another person's distress is not power, success, or a trophy. If causing harm feels like victory, that is the moment to examine yourself, not celebrate yourself.
7. “I WIN”
And then: “I WIN”
After everything that came before it, these two words expose the underlying harm with remarkable clarity. @shayallday had already described believing she possessed “power” over Dogweh & Reckless and had “controlled” their time, emotions, and energy.
Then she defined the outcome:
“I WIN.”
And what exactly was won? Another human being was insulted, misgendered, labeled mentally unstable, mocked over psychiatric medication, and had something they love used against them. If believing you successfully affected that person emotionally is what produces the feeling of victory, then another human being’s distress has become the scoreboard.
That is the complete opposite of the Christianity being represented going against the words we have for Jesus.
Jesus commands love of enemies, the Golden Rule requires treating others as you would want to be treated, and Romans 13:10 states: “Love worketh no ill to his neighbour.”
There is no Christian victory in successfully hurting another human being. If someone has to lose their dignity, peace, or emotional wellbeing for you to feel like you won, everyone lost.
Repentance Could Look Like…Stop measuring human interactions by domination, emotional impact, or who “won.”
When you realize another person may have been harmed by your words, the question is no longer “Did I win?” It is “Did I hurt someone, and what am I willing to do to repair it?”
THE CENTRAL OFFENSE
The most concerning part of this interaction is not that @shayallday insulted someone on TikTok. People behave badly online every day. It is what became permissible once another human being stood between her and her religious abuse.
The story of Jesus literal exists to expose harm done by religious abuse and now 2000 years later his name is used to fuel religoius abuse.
Dogweh & Reckless was met with misgendering, attacks on mental health, mockery of psychiatric treatment, attacks involving someone they love, and finally the celebration of perceived psychological power over them: “To think I have so much power over you is awesome.”
And: “I WIN.”
Whatever one believes about God or Christianity, compare that behavior with the standard of the religion being represented. Jesus says to love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you. The story of Jesus teaches love of neighbor and identifies himself with the treatment of the vulnerable.
This is not me demanding that a Christian conform to my worldview. This is asking someone professing Christianity to recognize when their treatment of another human being has become almost unrecognizable beside the Jesus they claim to follow.
WHY THIS EXISTS
My friend Spencer suffered a catastrophic accident.
Spencer publicly challenges Christianity and religious harm. Now he is seriously injured, hospitalized, and those who he criticizes shows up, “God works in mysterious ways”.
We see why Spencer creates the content he does right?
Fighting for justice and mercy.
Doing what is more aligned with what Jesus taught then anything we see @shayallday say.
Spencer's catastrophe is real.
His injuries are real.
His family's fear is real.
And people who challenge the religion of Christianity do not become place for relgious abuse when life happens to them as it does to all of us.
Romans 12:15 says:
“Weep with them that weep.”
The fact this even has to still be said 2000 years post what the Christian religion believes as the time of their gods murder because of religious abuse.
Christianity has become a religion that is anti everything Jesus actually said and so because of that content creators like Spencer and Dogweh & Reckless exist to expose this abuse.
And in the journey of exposing the abuse you end up getting treated no different then religious leaders treated Jesus which is wild to experience as creators that no longer identify or believe in the Christian faith.
When words are used to cause another human being emotional distress, this is now power or awesome or winning.
Because if Jesus is the person Christians claim to follow, loving an enemy was never conditional upon accepting prayer, being agreeable, polite, Christian, easy to love, or kind to you first.
The command matters precisely when they are not.
That is why I call it Religious Psychosis.
Not because religious people believe things I do not believe.
It’s the abuse of certainty coming from someone who is convinced they are standing on the side of God.
If your God is love, then harming another human being should never become evidence of “winning”.
If Jesus says what you do to the vulnerable you do to him, then if only all of us looked carefully at the human being you are hurting.
And it’s becoming more sad every day finding the majority of Christians online are not capable or able of doing this.
And if your response to someone else's suffering is anything other than “Weep with them that weep” its harm.
It’s just wild to see those of us who no longer identify as Christian nor follow the Christian faith seem to be the only ones on the internet committed to that. We are learning it doesn’t take a God to care for one another. Maybe this was Jesus was all about.
